I learn new things everyday. I don’t learn them because i go to school, or because my life is so extraordinary or because someone is teaching them to me… i learn things because i try to learn things. I pay attention, i observe and i think… therefore i learn. This week i’ve been learning something new. Perhaps it’s not something that everyone can relate to, but since i work with children all week, it applies to my life.
When children cry, the natural thing to do is to ask them why they’re crying i think, then maybe you try to make them feel better by saying positive things and encouraging them, thats what i have always done atleast. This week i have realized something new though, when children (or anyone for that matter) cry they don’t want to be told reasons why they shouldn’t cry and they don’t want to be reminded of why they’re crying by asking them why… they just want to be loved. I have tried in so many ways to help crying children to stop crying and i rarely am able to help them, but now i’ve realized that just by loving them and holding them, they stop. They don’t stop because the problem went away, or because they were bribed or persuaded to stop crying, they stop because the problem doesnt matter anymore. When people feel loved, appreciated and understood, everything else just seems to fall into place.
So when a child (or anyone) is crying, try not to be insensetive. It’s easy to not be sensetive to other people if it doesn’t relate to you, that’s how i feel atleast. But they just want love and they want to be held… and that’s something we are all capable of doing! :)