“Someone once told me that the power in all relationships resides with whoever cares less… and i think he was right. But power isn’t happiness and i think happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less.”—Ghosts of Girlfriends Past
So many of us let our insecurities get the best of us. We strive to change them so that others will like us, or stop judging us, or so we’ll feel better about ourselves in their eyes. But i don’t think that will ever fix the insecurity, if we’re just fixing it for THEM, so THEY won’t make fun us or make us feel bad about ourselves then i dont think that really fixes anything. It’s not about changing the things about us that we feel insecure about, its about accepting them and realizing that we all have differences and things that make us unique. If we kept changing the parts of ourselves that other people were judging us for and making us feel less than for… we would never stop changing. People will always be able to find something they don’t like about us, that doesn’t mean we need to change, that just means they’re insecure. It’s an awful cycle. The only way we will ever learn to be happy is to accept those things that we can’t change and not let others judgments make us or break us. We are who we are whether they like it or not. The moment you let others opinions become more important than the opinion of Jesus, you are unconsciously deciding to let other people choose who you become. Jesus thinks youre beautiful and talented and special and strong. He believes in you and has faith in you and loves you endlessly. THAT is the opinion that matters because that opinion is truth.
Do something that will make your friends wonder about you. Do something that can’t be put on a resume. Learn to say no to good things that aren’t the best. Be content yet curious. Live Micah 6:8. Read good books. Rebel against your own indiffernece. Fight mediocrity. Marinate your minds in things that matter. Be suspicious of those ones all shined up on the outside. Choose what’s right, not what’s easy. Stop doing more and be more. Tear up society’s blueprint for happiness and use it for confetti. Pray “Thy Will Be Done” when you don’t know what else to pray. Be suspicious that God is plotting to make you happy. When it rains, fill your water bottle. Buy things for their usefulness, not for their status. Develop a habit of giving things away. Ask the questions that have no answers. Be not anxious about what you have but about who you are. Learn to listen and you will profit even from those who talk badly. If they give you ruled paper, write the other way. Laugh at yourself. Embrace simplicity. Reduce selfishness.
I’ve recently been cleaning out boxes in my closet to get organized. I found a packet from one of my high school English teachers that was filled with many quotes and a manifesto that he wrote himself. These were some of the words and quotes that i enjoyed most. I hope you are able to enjoy them, think about them and live them. :)