One of my favorite shows is Friends. I love it. It’s hilarious. But anyways, there is an epsiode in the earlier seaons, first season i think, where Ross makes a pros and cons list of Rachel and why he should or shouldnt be with her. To get to the point, eventually Rachel tells him she doesn’t want to date him anymore because he did that. She says something like "How would you like it if the person you trusted most took the things that you feel insecure about and not only thinks them too but actually uses them as reasons not to be with you."
Basically, don’t be mean to people. Yes, this quote is about two people who wanted to start a relationship, but whether someone is a stranger, a friend, a celebrity, a family member or a significant other, we should not be pointing out their flaws. Imagine the things that you dislike most about yourself… and imagine meeting someone new and them saying “You know what, i don’t really want to be your friend because you have a gap inbetween your teeth.”
We hurt people ALL the time. Why do we feel the need to point out the flaws and imperfections in others but get defensive when others do the same to us? I have always said that i wish we could just all universally agree to be nice to one other and since that doesn’t seem to be happening anytime soon, atleast those of us who CARE about other people can agree to be nice. People have enough going on in their lives without you attacking who they are and what they look like. Give people a break. Look at their beauty, at their talents, at the good.
Whenever you make fun of another person, point out their flaws and weaknesses or bring up their past… all you are doing is showing others that you are an insecure person who needs to belittle others so that you feel superior and come off as confident. Or you’re just jealous. So which one is it? Why are you mean? Is it because you’re insecure… or because you’re jealous? Think about it. We need to change our attitudes and our hearts. Love others. ACCEPT others. BE KIND.