Don’t listen to other people talk about their insecurities. Just don’t. If they are talking about them with you because they need encouragement, help or direction… that’s another issue, then listen to them and help in the areas that you can. However, if someone is complaining about their insecurities, flaws and imperfections just to complain… don’t listen to them! It’s not healthy.
Recently, someone in my life has been talking about how they want a nose job. I have NEVER thought this person had a large nose, or an odd nose, i never really thought about their nose at all, but they want a smaller nose. They believe their nose is too big for their face. When i first heard this, i thought that they were crazy! I of course know plastic surgery has unfortunately become very normal, but to shave down the bone of your nose just because you feel it’s not “picture perfect” is crazy. I think in some instances plastic surgery may be necessary, like if you are born with an irregular deformity or if you’ve been in an accident that has changed your natural bone structure… but other wise… i don’t like it. Its not natural and it’s not the way God designed for us to live. He created us, our bone structure, our nose, the size of our ears, how far apart our eyes are and he decided we are beautiful that way. And for us to say that HIS work of art isn’t good enough for us, must devistate Him.
What i’m trying to say is, it’s not always safe to listen to others complain about the things they want to fix about themselves. Me, i’m confident, i love myself, i really do and i hate plastic surgery… but after listening to this person talk about getting the “perfect nose” i started to think… “Wow, my nose is kind of big… it’s definitely too big for my face, i can’t believe i never noticed this. My nose is absolutely hideous.” And i had to stop myself! Maybe you’re thinking, “Leah, why did you never notice that? Your nose has always been huge!” or maybe youre thinking “Leah, youre nuts, your nose is fine.” Either way, it doesnt matter what OTHER people are thinking, it only matters what I am thinking, cause I have to live with myself.
I believe in ACCEPTING our “flaws”… if you can even call them that. I think the things our world describes as “flaws” are the things that make us different, unique and beautiful. Changing the outward appearance does not change the inside feeling. You can cut and pull and stretch and inject all you want, but insecurity comes from inside. If you’re not comfortable with who you are now… changing your looks won’t change that.