BE COOL WITH EVERYONE.
“Bullying’s not cool. And I’ll tell you, in the 2nd grade I tried to fit in with so many people that I was probably the biggest bully in the whole school. But once I got into 3rd, I started to realize what a jerk I was being to kids and what it could do. And then in the 4th, I really started realizing it was gonna hurt someone, so I decided to BE COOL WITH EVERYONE.” - Trey, Age 11
That’s a quote from the documentary, Bully. This documentary has some language and disturbing parts, but the most disturbing part is that it’s REAL LIFE. It shows how some people ACTUALLY get treated and it’s not right. I highly recommend this movie. Even if you’re someone who isn’t a bully, this movie brings verbal and physical abuse into the light so that we can see how some people have to live and what they have to put up with. And even more importantly that just UNDERSTANDING how people are treated, we can begin to be COMPASSIONATE towards ALL people. Everyone has a story and everyone has a struggle.
This young boy who I quoted lost his best friend to suicide after he was bullied repeatedly at school. Why can’t it be this easy for all of us? Trey puts it in the simplest way possible, he just DECIDED to be COOL with everyone. Even if you’re not a bully, chances are there are people you’re not “cool” with. But why? Who are WE to decide who is “deserving” of love and who “deserves” to be treated right?! That’s CRAP! If Jesus only died for the people who “deserved” it… we’d all be HOPELESS! We’re not going to AGREE with EVERYONE ALL the time, but we can ALL agree to put our OPINIONS to the side and simply LOVE others and TREAT them how we want to be treated, even in the middle of our disagreements!
Let’s all make an effort to just… be COOL with EVERYONE! :)
I didn’t write this, but I wanted to share it. So beautiful
Twas’ 11 days before Christmas, around 9:38
when 20 beautiful children stormed through heaven’s gate.
their smiles were contagious, their laughter filled the air.
they could hardly believe all the beauty they saw there.
they were filled with such joy, they didn’t know what to say.
they remembered nothing of what had happened earlier that day.
“where are we?” asked a little girl, as quiet as a mouse.
“this is heaven.” declared a small boy. “we’re spending Christmas at God’s house.”
when what to their wondering eyes did appear,
but Jesus, their savior, the children gathered near.
He looked at them and smiled, and they smiled just the same.
then He opened His arms and He called them by name.
and in that moment was joy, that only heaven can bring
those children all flew into the arms of their King
and as they lingered in the warmth of His embrace,
one small girl turned and looked at Jesus’ face.
and as if He could read all the questions she had
He gently whispered to her, “I’ll take care of mom and dad.”
then He looked down on earth, the world far below
He saw all of the hurt, the sorrow, and woe
then He closed His eyes and He outstretched His hand,
“Let My power and presence re-enter this land!”
“may this country be delivered from the hands of fools”
“I’m taking back my nation. I’m taking back my schools!”
then He and the children stood up without a sound.
“come now my children, let me show you around.”
excitement filled the space, some skipped and some ran.
all displaying enthusiasm that only a small child can.
and i heard Him proclaim as He walked out of sight,
“in the midst of this darkness, I AM STILL THE LIGHT.”
sandy hook elementary school.
I can’t even begin to imagine how the families of the victims of the Sandy Hook shooting feel. Well, I can BEGIN to imagine and then I almost stop myself because it’s so heavy on my heart. But I try anyway. I try to put myself in their place, I try to imagine losing the most precious thing in my life, I try to find peace amongst the chaos, I try to feel what they’re feeling. And if I’m feeling even a slight percentage of what they’re feeling… then I literally can’t imagine what they’re feeling. I’ve cried multiple times thinking about this. I don’t mean tears rolling down my cheek slowly, I mean sobbing uncontrollably. To try to put yourself in someone else’s place is one of the most difficult acts of empathy, but it is so precious. I know that me, imagining what their feeling, doesn’t help them in reality, but it helps me to see a glimpse of how their feeling and empathize with them and pray for SPECIFIC things and healing in their life. And even though sometimes prayer can seem silly, and make you wonder if it’s actually doing anything at all, the comfort of being ABLE to pray for those who are hurting is enough.
I wrote a blog not too long ago about the Aurora shooting. That one was hard to write. I cried with that one too. I cried a lot. Losing anyone of any age is a difficult thing. But this one does hurt my heart a little more. To think about these children who were so young, so innocent, so PURE. They were vulnerable and accepting. Children are some of the most forgiving people ever. They are dreamers and believers. And to think someone could somehow kill them, is something I can’t understand. Most of the time, I can put myself in that scary place of the one who killed others. I tried to do it with the Aurora shooting, put myself in his place, it helped me to realize how hurt (or maybe mentally ill) that man had to be to want to kill those people he didn’t even know. No amount of hurt or mental illness EXCUSES someone to act that way, I’m NOT defending anyone who commits a crime of this nature AT ALL, but people don’t hurt others senselessly unless they have been hurt themselves. I don’t think people who kill others are monsters. They weren’t born killers, they were born CHILDREN, just like the children of the lives that were lost. I think those who are able to kill innocent people are broken into a million pieces inside, I think over time their hearts have become full of hatred and they’re unable to forgive. I think they hate themselves and their life so much to the point where they want other people to be miserable too. And I can’t imagine hating my life to that kind of extreme. I am a very understanding person, but I can’t quite understand how this man killed 26 people and was fine with it. I can’t understand how he could shoot a child who has done nothing wrong, whose face is full of light and hope. I try to put myself in his place, not because he deserves it but because I want to understand, but this time I can’t.
I try to find forgiveness for this man who chose to do the wrong, selfish thing. I don’t necessarily think we should forgive this man for his sake, he’s gone, he’s not looking for forgiveness anyway. But I don’t think people can ever truly heal if they are still angry. Right now it’s so soon after the tragedy, so of course those affected are going to have mixed emotions of depression, sadness, anger, desperation, confusion… that’s normal. But I pray that someday, whether soon or far in the future, that the families of those who were lost can somehow forgive this man, so that their OWN hearts can heal. I’m not mentioning his name this time, because I don’t think we should remember it. His name shouldn’t be spoken so often that we all know who he is. I would rather name all the victims. I hesitated naming them, because so many are so young, but I feel like they will only be remembered for their LIGHT, which is beautiful! I will send you to a site, it gives details about some of those who died and names the rest of them and their ages.
Read it here
I’ve spent time reading articles about this tragedy, looking at pictures and letting myself feel something. When we hear things like this, it’s so easy to disconnect ourselves. If it doesn’t happen to us personally or in our city, we often don’t let ourselves feel. We feel bad, sure, but we don’t actually let it sink in. I urge you to let it sink in. Try to imagine what it would feel like to drop your child off at school and never see them again. Imagine what it’d be like to hear your sister stood in front of her students being willing to get shot to protect those children. Let yourself feel it! Put yourself there! I am guilty of trying to disconnect too. I don’t watch the news, I hate it, I have no desire to learn about all the horrible things going on this world. If I watched the news daily, I would surely live in depression. But when things like this happen, it affects so many of us, or at least it should. I hear people say they don’t want to read about it or hear about it because it’s too sad, and I understand that completely. But I think sometimes, you need to let yourself experience it. Don’t let yourself forget about this tragedy without feeling it first.
To know that those children are all in heaven, is such a beautiful thing! They are dancing and laughing with Jesus and they are SO happy! They are in a MUCH better place than this world!
”He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
I have been wanting to blog about this topic for quite some time but I think I needed some time to calm down, because I was a little too upset about it. Let me start by saying, I have always had some sort of fascination with Christian celebrities. Why? I am a Christian, I love Jesus with my whole heart and I live my life for Him alone. I have also wanted to be an actress for most of my life, not for the fame or the money, but for the joy of doing what I love, acting. I think that fame is a burden that comes with having a job in the entertainment industry, but when people are able to use their fame to GLORIFY GOD and give HIM the credit, I LOVE it! That would explain why I love to hear about Christian celebrities, because I have always dreamt of being one. Not of being a “celebrity” because that doesn’t matter to me in the slightest, but of being an actress and being able to use the position that people in entertainment industry have not to please myself but to CHANGE THE WORLD, to promote LOVE and to have Jesus’ LIGHT SHINE so brightly through me that the only explanation there could possibly be for it, would be a higher power, the God and Savior of the universe, living IN ME!
When I find out someone, anyone, is a Christian and actually lives a life that is pleasing to God and aims to act according to Biblical principles, I am so excited! Especially when it’s a celebrity. Not because they’re “cooler” or “prettier” or “popular” but because they are looked up to by the world. Unfortunately, in our culture we look to the entertainment industry for what to do, how to act, who to be and what the believe! I would love for that to NOT be an unfortunate thing, which is why I love when there is a LIGHT in that industry, a light that is saying “Don’t look at how good I am, look at how GREAT Jesus is!”
Now to the part that is upsetting me. Many people who start out as Christians in the industry, somehow fade out of it. I understand, I do, the atmosphere in Hollywood and in the industry in general will eat you alive. If you don’t EXACTLY who you are and what you stand for before you get into that world, you will lose your morals very quickly. However, somehow I still have so much hope and faith in these Christian celebrities, because I want them to influence the world in the best way possible! In the past couple months I have been learning about these young Christians in the industry, who no longer where their purity rings. Is it necessary to wear a purity ring? Absolutely not! Is it a sin to take it off? I don’t think so, no. The reason this is upsetting is because of the replies they have given when ASKED about those rings. I don’t want to say exactly WHO said this, because I think it’s unnecessary, but I will tell you the quotes that I found from them directly, I even watched a video of one of them, flat out saying these words.
When asked, “Why do you not where you’re purity ring anymore?”
Someone replied “When I was 13 my mom spoke to me about purity and waiting for marriage… At the time I was like ‘Sure, that’s great’ but I can’t say what’s gonna happen a couple months from now. PEOPLE GROW.”
I admire the honesty in the previous quote, I do. EVERYONE makes mistakes, we’re ALL sinners, we all have sinned and will continue to sin. But my problem with this, is that it doesn’t look they this person things no longer staying pure would be a mistake. They apparently think it’s a part of “growing up”… which is really ridiculous to me!
Here’s another quote.
When asked “Do you still wear your purity ring?”
They answered “You know, everyone’s kinda growing up now. It was a decision made a long time ago, I’m a different person now.”
This next one doesn’t have to do with “purity” but is still a proclaimed young Christian celebrity girl.
She was asked “You’re getting older! What is your favorite part of growing up?”
She answered “I guess I would have to say dressing sexier!”
This whole “growing up” thing is driving me crazy! What the heck?! I’m honestly confused. Since when did adult= promiscuous? I didn’t realize the Bible said “P.S. Once you GROW UP, you don’t have to follow what I’ve commanded of you. You’re a grown up, therefore it’s okay if you lose all sense of morals.” Sorry if that’s harsh, but come on! I do NOT judge ANYONE who has sex before marriage. It is a very hard thing to follow through with… it’s not about them not being PURE, it’s about them saying “I grew up” instead of “I made a mistake, thank God for GRACE!” And yes, I understand that’s not a topic you want to talk about anyway in front of the public, but to use GROWING UP as an EXCUSE for LACK of SELF CONTROL, is pathetic. I would admire honesty so much more! I’m not upset that that they broke the promise to themselves, that’s none of my business, it’s that they DECIDED the promise was silly and no longer relevant. It’s not saying “I messed up, I’ll try to learn from this.” It’s saying “I know longer think THIS PART of the Bible is worth following.
I honestly don’t care that people mess up and go back on their word. I sin daily! I am continually working on things in my life. Always! I understand the making mistakes part! I need forgiveness everyday of my life! But if growing up means you completely give into every fleshly desire and no longer have any regard for the spirit, if it means you abandon all understanding and beliefs in morality, if it means going back on your promises to God with no intention of asking forgiveness, if it means that trying to live according to the Bible is childish… I pray I NEVER GROW UP!
**I want everyone to know that I do not claim to know everything about these people who said these quotes. I don’t know their intentions, I don’t even know if they were just misunderstood, I don’t know their heart, all I know is what they said… I am not angry at these people personally, I am just so sad that it is nearly impossible to find genuine Christian role models in the industry. And like I said, of course even the Christians in the industry will make mistakes, because we ALL do, but like I said, the thing that upsets me is that they don’t seem to believe they made a mistake, they believe they simply… grew up.
ignore what THEY say.
The other day i said the words “What do i have to do to make you happy?” to myself, thinking about another person. And then i realized, i dont. I don’t have to make THEM happy. I am not here on this earth to PLEASE others and to do what THEY want me to do. I am here to love them and to share Jesus Christ with them, yes, but i am not HERE to do what THEY SAY i should do. We are HERE FOR GOD. We are HERE to PLEASE HIM. It’s a lot easier to focus on pleasing one person, God, than pleasing the whole WORLD. Especially because whatever we do is GOOD ENOUGH for Him. God will never say to us “I’ll only love you if you do this and say this.” HE LOVES US no matter what we do or say! If we put our engery into pleasing the world, we would be easily emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually drained, because it is literally IMPOSSIBLE to please every single human being. They will ALWAYS be able to find something they DONT LIKE about us, something THEY want to CHANGE. Ignore them, they have NO IDEA what is BEST for you. I don’t even know what is best for me, but i do know WHO knows what is best for me, and that’s Jesus Christ!
They tell you to shut up after they said to speak your mind
They tend to judge your motives after you choose to be kind
They tell you that you’re wrong just to prove that they’re right
They claim to value peace but then try to pick a fight
They tell you to change when you express what you believe
They try to make you think you don’t deserve what you achieve
They tell you not to cry because they think it makes you weak
They push you to the edge to see if you’ll turn the other cheek
They tell you that you’re worthless if you dont practice what you preach
They see you make mistakes and say you have no right to teach
They tell you you’ll never win in this life they thinks a race
They sell you negativity to wipe the smile off your face
But God is saying “Speak to me! I want to hear every word
I want to listen and let you know that you are HEARD
THEY can’t see your HEART, so ignore what they have to say
They only see the OUTSIDE, they don’t know the intimacies you PRAY
My child, I didn’t make you for THEM, I made you FOR ME
So don’t be discouraged when they can’t SEE what I SEE
What I see is BEAUTIFUL, inspirational and TRUE
I see all the goodness because I’m who CREATED YOU
So look up my DARLING to find that I STILL CARE
I’m the ONLY ONE you’ll ever NEED and I’ll ALWAYS be there.”
You’re the Hero of my story and the rythm in my song
Without You, i wouldn’t have the strength that makes me strong
You’re the voice behind my words and the beating in my heart
In the puzzle of my life, You’re every intricate part
You’re the soul behind my thoughts and the passion in my dreams
You’re the lead character of my life, You’re the star of every scene
You’re the music in my head and the sunshine in my day
You’re the blue in my sky and the path in my way
You’re the friend that never leaves, You’re the courage when i’m brave
When you had to choose Your life or mine, i’m the one You saved
You’re the talent in my art and You’re the rhyme in this poem
You’re the hope that keeps me holding on, You’re my peace, You’re my home
So many of us let our insecurities get the best of us. We strive to change them so that others will like us, or stop judging us, or so we’ll feel better about ourselves in their eyes. But i don’t think that will ever fix the insecurity, if we’re just fixing it for THEM, so THEY won’t make fun us or make us feel bad about ourselves then i dont think that really fixes anything. It’s not about changing the things about us that we feel insecure about, its about accepting them and realizing that we all have differences and things that make us unique. If we kept changing the parts of ourselves that other people were judging us for and making us feel less than for… we would never stop changing. People will always be able to find something they don’t like about us, that doesn’t mean we need to change, that just means they’re insecure. It’s an awful cycle. The only way we will ever learn to be happy is to accept those things that we can’t change and not let others judgments make us or break us. We are who we are whether they like it or not. The moment you let others opinions become more important than the opinion of Jesus, you are unconsciously deciding to let other people choose who you become. Jesus thinks youre beautiful and talented and special and strong. He believes in you and has faith in you and loves you endlessly. THAT is the opinion that matters because that opinion is truth.