YOU CAN’T WIN.
“If you go… they say you’re following
If you don’t… then you’re too good for them
If you smile… you must be ignorant
If you don’t… what’s your problem?
If you’re down - so ungrateful
And if you’re happy - why so selfish?
And you can’t win, no
You can’t win, no”
These lyrics are from one of Kelly Clarkson’s new songs called “You can’t win”
I love this song… maybe it can perceived in different ways, but to me it’s clear that these lyrics are saying that no matter what you do, what you wear, what you say or look like… the people of the world will always find something wrong with you.
Thats the society we live in. We live in a world where people jump on your faults, flaws, failures, imperfections... everything that people can find wrong with you, they will and they will tell you… and if they don’t tell you, they are judging you or talking about it behind your back. I know thats not the most comforting thing to hear, but unfortunately, that is true for most of the population.
The reason i love this song is because it says that no matter what you do, you can’t win… i know that sounds like a bad thing, but its not. You dont NEED to win with the people of this world. You dont NEED to please the people in your life. You dont NEED to act a certain way so the people around will like you.
I think at some point in everyone’s life we need to realize that we can NEVER make another human being completely happy. We’re not suppose to!!! We are humans, we do things wrong. And even the things we do right, other people will find something wrong with them because they are HUMAN as well.
So to contradict the song, YOU CAN WIN… but you CANT do it by trying to make other people happy. YOU WIN by being yourself, loving yourself and being someone that God is proud of. You will never win with the people that surround you… because you don’t answer to them, they have unrealistic expectations of you. You answer to yourself and you answer to God, and with God… you ALWAYS win.
I figured it out. What is this “it” i’m talking about? Life! I figured life out, or atleast i think. The key to a happy life is to be you. Yes, simple and perhaps a little disappointing, but let me explain why i think this has so much to do with life. I believe that God did not create any 2 people the same. I believe we are all different. Yes, we have similarities with our physical features and similarities with the things we like and dislike but we are all different. I don’t believe there is ANYONE in the entire world that has ALL the same thoughts, ideas, beliefs, experiences, dreams and creativity as i have. So what does that mean? Thats means if i am myself and not trying to be like anyone else, my life is successful. Maybe successful isnt the right word, but thats what i’m using.
You know how some people say “I have never met someone like you before”… they are saying that to the people who are true to themselves… the people who are confident in who they are and what they want in life. And you know those people who act like the majority? Those people who perhaps seem a little fake and way too familiar… those are the people who arent being themselves, they are copying other people, they are putting on the characteristics of someone they think is ideal, when really, what is ideal… is being genuine and sincere which means being you.
I think people who are themselves are winning. Is winning important? No, i dont think so, but let me explain. If you are infact completely yourself, if you are one hundred percent who you are then you no longer care about what other people have to say about you, because it doesnt matter. Dont get me wrong, i’m not saying that everything will roll off your shoulders and you’ll be living in a perfect world, that is hardly true… i’m just saying it is easier to accept the negativity when it comes to you when you are happy with your life and who you are. When you are who you are, you’re not doing it to impress, you’re doing it because you’re comfortable in your own skin. So when i say that those who are themselves are winning, i dont mean that life is a game about winning and losing… i mean that when you know who you are and are happy with yourself you no longer care whether youre winning or losing… which in turn, means youre winning. You see? :)